The holidays can bring up a lot of stress and heightened emotions, especially when it comes to strained relationships. Whether it’s a family member, a friend, or a past issue, old triggers can resurface, often in unexpected ways. It’s important to recognise these triggers and approach them with compassion.
Here’s how to handle those moments with care:
Notice the signs
When a conversation or situation causes a sudden emotional reaction (like anxiety, frustration, or sadness), that’s often a sign of a trigger. Pay attention to these feelings—they can help you understand what’s at play.
Pause before reacting
If you feel triggered, take a moment to breathe and gather your thoughts. It’s okay to step away, take a break, or even excuse yourself from a conversation to give yourself the time you need to process.
Be kind to yourself
These triggers are a part of your emotional history, not a reflection of who you are now. It’s normal to have strong reactions to difficult relationships. The emotional response is often out of your control and automatic. Show yourself the same empathy you’d offer a friend going through something similar.
Set boundaries
The holidays can be a time to establish healthy limits. It’s okay to say no, take time for yourself, or distance yourself from situations that feel overwhelming. Protecting your peace is important during an overstimulating season.
Accept what you can’t change
Some relationships may be strained beyond repair, and that’s okay. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up—it means letting go of the need to control what’s out of your hands, and instead focusing on your own wellbeing.
Remember, the holidays are not just about others—they’re also about taking care of you. Be gentle, honour your emotions, and take the time you need to look after yourself the way you need to.
